HOW MUCH SEX IS TOO MUCH SEX, AND HOW IT AFFECTS THE QUALITY OF YOUR LIFE?
There is indeed a thing like too much sex if you didn’t know.
The truth is that sex is a normal, healthy, and extremely fun part of adult life, with sexual attraction and sexual compatibility being the basis of many successful relationships.
If sex is so much fun and if it is something that helps couples sustain relationships, how can there ever be too much of it?
When sex starts to get in the way of your living a healthy or productive life, that is when it becomes a problem. When you decide to have a romp in the bed instead of getting to work on time or instead of eating breakfast, lunch or dinner, and if this happens not just once, and not twice, but on a regular basis, there is a problem.
Sex is good for the body, but when sex habits start to get in the way of day-to-day life, there is a problem that needs to be addressed ASAP.
How much sex is normal?
People tend to fudge the numbers when it comes to sex, but science does actually have an accurate idea when it comes to how often people have sex. It is said that the average adult has sex about once a week, which is an average of 54 times a week.
Breaking the research down according to demographics, science has found that people under 30 usually have sex about twice a week, which means that they have sex about 112 times a year on average. By the time someone is between the ages of 30 and 39, research shows that the frequency of sex drops to about 86 times a year. People aged between 40 and above average 54 times yearly.
Some other scientific findings about sex
According to a 2017 study that was published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, couples have sex at least once a week. In 2015, another study carried out by Social Psychological and Personality Science linked the frequency of sex and happiness and posited that couples who average sex once weekly are more often than not happier with the state of their relationships than those who have sex less often.
This study by Social Psychological and Personality Science also discovered that having sex more than once a week doesn’t increase a person’s level of happiness.
This suggests that the focus should not be on the frequency of sex but on the quality of it.
Too much sex and its effects
You will have to determine by yourself what works for you and your partner when it comes to the frequency of your sex life. You should, however, know that too much sex causes misery in a number of ways.
Here are some of them:
Exhaustion: Sex is an activity requiring a lot of energy, and this is why you burn a lot of calories when having sexual intercourse. When you have sex, your body releases norepinephrine, adrenaline, and cortisol into your bloodstream, and this leads to an increase in blood pressure, heart rate, muscle strength as well as glucose metabolism. We all know that too much exercise wears out the body, and by extension when you have too much sex, you exhaust yourself.
Dehydration: You lose water from your body during sexual sessions. Have sex too often and too long and you may end up dehydrated from excessive sweating. This is, however, a side effect that has an easy remedy which is to drink lots of water, before and after sex.
Inflammation of the genitals: Having sex very often may leave your genitals sore and swollen, and this is not fun especially if you are a woman. For women, having too much sex also causes a condition called vaginal excoriation, which is the scrapping off of the vulva skin during penetration. As a result, there is a burning sensation when passing urine or problems when walking because of a sore, swollen vagina.
Lower back pain: If you are having sex too often and if each session lasts too long, you may be in constant lower back pain. Lower back pain as a result of sex is ever so often caused by a torn or pulled ligament or muscle that happens during sudden jerky movements.
Weak immunity: Sexual intercourse releases many hormones into the bloodstream. For example, the female body produces prostaglandin E-2 hormone during sex and releases it into the bloodstream. This, however, is a hormone that is usually made at sites of tissue damage or infection, and they cause inflammation, fever, and pain as part of the healing process. When this happens too often, they combine to lead to weakened immunity. It might also lead to damaged tissues, as well as nervous and muscular pain.
Rug burns: This happens when heat from the friction of sex damages the skin, and this kind of burn makes it uncomfortable to have sex subsequently in certain positions.
Urinary Tract Infections (UTI): For women, UTIs occur when bacteria enters the urinary tract through the urethra and starts to multiply in the bladder. When this occurs, the bacteria may take hold and grow into a full-blown infection in the urinary tract. Sexually active women have the tendency to have more UTIs than women who aren’t sexually active. Urinary Tract Infections can be incredibly uncomfortable and painful.
At the end of the day, sex should come down to quality over quantity. Having lots of sex doesn’t mean it’s too much, in as much as both you and your partner enjoy it. It only becomes a problem when it starts to interfere with your daily life.
Finally, it pays to remember that the goal of a relationship should be happiness and not sex. Sex should only be important to the degree that it makes a couple happy.